Saturday, 2 June 2012

Sad Times

Every now and then things happen that make you question the meaning of life. Three weeks ago my neighbour collapsed in the road from a bleed on the brain. She died 24 hours later. She was only 69, fitter than me and ate all the right things. Her husband has an enlarged heart and has not been well for many years and, in truth, we all thought he would go first.

Her funeral was last Monday. The night before her husband was in a very distressed state and my husband went in to try and calm him. We had a leaky washer in our toilet cystern and, as we are on a meter, I decided to fix it. When I went to turn the stop cock off water gushed out everywhere. This was shortly followed by a phone call from my Dad who was unable to get hold of my Grandad. It was one of those times when I felt completely out of control and wasn't sure which problem to deal with first. To make things worse, I couldn't get hold of my Mum to look after the children and in the past my lovely neighbour would have done this. 

After contacting Grandad's neighbour we found out he had fallen and been lying on the floor for 24 hours. He is 91. He was taken to A&E where they found he was dehydrated and confused. I somehow managed to fix the stop cock with some PFT tape, tracked down my Mum and we arrived at A&E at the same time as the ambulance.

We've been on an emotional roller coaster all week. Some days he has been a little better, others worse. Yesterday he seemed much better and we have asked him if he would like to come and live with us now which he has agreed to. For 91 he is amazingly healthy, we just need to make sure he drinks lots so he doesn't get dehydated again.

So, that's why I've been so quiet recently. I haven't lost my blogging mojo, I really miss it, and I will be popping in and out to see you all, but now I have a house to clear and a Grandad to move in so my visits may remain infrequent!

I hope the bank holiday finds you all well and brings you a little sunshine.

Becky x

PS. I included a few photos of the flowers in the garden, that I have been meaning to share with you a while, to try and brighten this post a little. x


  1. Sorry to hear your bad news. Hope your Grandad will be okay now. Try to take some time out for yourself now and again. Wool is very relaxing and theraputic at times like this! :)

  2. Hi Becky, I'm so sorry to hear all this - what a hard time you're going through. Sometimes everything seems to happen at once. Good luck with getting the house sorted and moving your Grandad in. Thinking of you.
    Maria x

  3. You're having a tough time, Becky, but it sounds like you're handling it brilliantly. I'm sure it means the world to your grandad that you're there for him, and it will be a lovely time for you and your family when everything settles down. Make sure you get some time for yourself too
    Jane x

  4. Oh Becky what a tough and emotional few weeks.
    Thinking of you as you adjust to the emotional and practical changes ahead.
    Ali x

  5. Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear of the tough time you've been having, life can really throw things at us at times. How wonderful of you to invite your granddad to come and live with you, that's just so lovely. I hope things pick up and get back to normal for you now. xx

  6. I am so sorry to hear of your difficult time. Sometimes things all seem to come at once. It is very kind of you to invite your Grandad to live with you. These days, it is a sadly unusual thing for people to offer. I am sure knowing he is coming to live with you will give him the stength to recover quickly. Take care. lily. xxx

  7. Sorry to hear about your neighbour and now your Granddad - you really have had a tough few weeks. I hope things get a bit easier, and your Granddad recovers soon. Big hugs xx

  8. Hello Becky, I am so sad to read about your neighbour and your grandad. What a time of it you have had. It is really lovely of you to bring your grandad home, I do hope he will be feeling better soon. Much love and a big bear hug to you, Linda xx

  9. Hey Becky, my goodness what a time you've been having........So sorry to read about your neighbour, what an awful shock for everyone........Good neighbours are hard to come by.........

    Your Grandad is so lucky to be able to move in with you. He's done well for 91 but there comes a time!!

    Delightful pics from your garden and it just goes to show you that in amongst all the mayhem of the last few weeks, there are moments of true beauty to be had.....

    Claire :}

  10. Just found your blog and fully understand your woes.
    I often wonder just what life is all about and have in the past got quite depressed about it all.
    But then I suppose if everything went smoothly all the time we would be bored.
    There do seem to be times when life chucks it to you all at once though and them its tough to cope.
    I hope all is well for you now and I love your flower photo's.

  11. Hello Becky, I'm so sorry to read about your traumatic couple of weeks. I will be thinking about you in the coming months as you and the family settle into new routines. Make sure you try to take some time for yourself amidst all your caring duties. Love Liz xx

  12. Oh Becky, you really are going through the mill at the moment, life sometimes just piles it on doesn't it, hope everything gets a little less full on soon

    Oh and good on you for taking in Granddad, something that happens far too rarely these days

    Your flower photos are stunning, so full of colour and vibrancy

  13. Oh Becky, what a rough time you've had. Your Grandad is so lucky to have such a lovely thoughtful grand daughter. Life throws these curveballs, its how you deal with it that counts and it sounds like you are doing a fantastic job.

    Sending lots of love and prayers your way,

    Rhi x x

  14. So sorry to hear all the sadness you've experienced and had to deal with Becky. Such a hard time anyway, without all those things happening at once, you must feel shell shocked.
    Take care Becky, and I hope your Grandad is improving.
    Gill xx

  15. Sorry to hear things have been stressful and worrying the last few weeks... these things do seem to test us all at once, don't they?!

    But hang on in there... and don't worry about us, we understand and will be here when things settle down.

    Big hugs,


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